The Architecture of Abuse: Mapping the Invisible Structures

Che Abongwa | English, 2026

He was told to “man up.” The court gave her custody. Society called him the abuser.

This is The Architecture of Abuse—and this book is the blueprint for its demolition.

Most people think domestic violence is a gender issue. It is not. It is a power and control issue.

The Architecture of Abuse shatters the single-story narrative to reveal the hidden system that traps millions of male victims. Drawing on twenty years of research, legal analysis from New Zealand’s landmark 2018 reforms, and case studies including Andrew Bagby and Johnny Depp, this book exposes the interlocking “bars of the cage”:

• Coercive Control

• Reproductive Coercion

• Parental Alienation (PA)

• False Allegations (DARVO)

• Systemic Bias and the Tender Years Doctrine

Inside this book, you will learn:

• Why the Power and Control Wheel applies to all genders—and how perpetrators exploit societal blind spots

• The link between Cluster B personality pathology and the “Snake” model of predatory abuse

• How Denmark and New Zealand criminalized coercive control—and why the US and UK are falling behind

• The Five-Factor Model to prove parental alienation in court and reclaim your children

• Real-world cases and overlooked truths that challenge mainstream narratives

This is not a “men’s rights” book. It is a human rights manual.

Whether you are a survivor fighting for custody, a therapist missing the signs, or a lawyer frustrated by gendered precedents, Che A. Abongwa provides the tools to dismantle the cage.

Read it. See the bars. Break them.